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Sunday, December 11, 2005 She is energetic and determined. She has strength and resistance, ability and patience; she is tough, and sometimes insensitive, and puts all her energy and talents into overcoming all the obstacles to her success. She is obstinate, calculating, does not take on anything without having thought of all the possible consequences, she can take all the time in the world and never loses patience to achieve her objectives. She is not particularly popular in her circle, but is feared and respected.?? Sun in Aquarius??She is independent, autonomous, emancipated and has progressive ideas.??Weaknesses: an unusual, rebellious and revolutionary spirit.??Moon in Aries??She is autonomous, emancipated, courageous. Self-assured, with energetic activities. She is ambitious and enthusiastic.??Weaknesses: impulsiveness, domination, aggressiveness, great impetuousness. Constant changing of job.??Mercury in Capricorn??Reflective, deep thinker; a fine and vivacious mind. Undertakes lengthy studies or, if circumstances do not allow, will teach herself. A rational person.??Weaknesses: rancor, coldness, malice, and often a pessimist.??Venus in Capricorn??Loves are sincere. She is basically attracted to those with problems, which complicates life because she takes on those people's problems. Her feelings are deep, stable, solid, definite. She is not very expansive and can be melancholic.??Weaknesses: she has a tendency to hold back emotions, she is too reserved and is frightened of being disappointed in love.??Mars in Scorpio??Aggressiveness can lead to a fight against society, the family, injustice in general and can sometimes be very violent. She can be the leader of an organization or a union, but the aggressiveness can be directed towards self-destruction if it does not have an outlet. The latter is by no means certain, as it is difficult to contain without snapping.??Weaknesses: passion, rage, fanaticism, quarrels.??Jupiter in Capricorn??She has great professional aspirations. She likes to direct, organize. She is correct, virtuous, conscientious and worthy.??Weaknesses: without doubt too avaricious, eager for gain.??Saturn in Scorpio??Observant, self-controlled, unforgiving, tough, methodical, a researcher, an investigator. Lots of courage, self-assurance and can keep her cool.??Weaknesses: makes no concessions or compromises. She can become a fanatic of a creed, a party, work or a religion.??Uranus in Sagittarius??She is shy, delicate but proud, bold and lively.??Neptune in Capricorn??She is discerning, wise and sensible.??Pluto in Scorpio??Great sexual activity.??Sign and ascendant??Aquarius ascendant Sagittarius??The planets in the houses??The planetary positions in the houses express the facts relative to destiny.??Sun in II??Financial ambition. Lucrative job, she satisfies her needs, which are substantial. Moves money about a lot and sometimes spends recklessly.??Moon in III??Highly imaginative, but has difficulty in concentrating. She fantasizes sometimes. Important studies, moves around a lot and travels frequently.??Mercury in I??Lively, alert, penetrating and ingenious mind. She expresses herself easily, is a born orator. She always looks on the bright side. Very adaptable.??Venus in I??Big-hearted. She is generous, altruistic, devoted, warm-hearted, lovable and sweet-tempered. She is drawn towards the Arts, music, song. She likes gatherings, parties. She has big emotional highs. Peaceful life in love.??Mars in XI??She achieves her ambitions. She is impulsive and presses on without thinking. She starts something new without necessarily finishing the last job. She likes to dominate and lacks diplomacy where friends and professional relations are concerned.??Jupiter in I??She is jovial, expansive, dynamic, kindly, altruistic. She has good judgement, is tolerant and likes food. She has a good education and a prosperous life.??Saturn in XI??She appreciates the company of older people of intelligence and good counsel. These will help success in professional life. She has few friends and has difficulty in finding a partner. She is very reserved.??Uranus in XII??She has difficulty in adapting to the modern world, to new technology. She looks for a job in an isolated place.??Neptune in I??She is intuitive, sensitive. Not a fighter and is indecisive.??The houses in the signs??Ascendant in Sagittarius??She will have an intellectual profession. Teaching, research, philosophy, mathematics. Children will be a source of happiness and pride.??House II in Capricorn??Success in professional life will be long and laborious. Continuously working towards it, she will finally achieve universally acknowledged success.??House III in Pisces??Ideas are somewhat changeable, and her humor as well. Travel, sea voyages or work connected with the sea.??House IV in Aries??Lots of authority within the family. She knows how to take the destiny of the family in hand. She is very energetic, very strong, knowing how to cope with life's setbacks.??House V in Taurus??A pleasant home, a charming husband, loving and sweet children, nice little meals, pleasant evenings with the loved one, that's the good life.??House VI in Gemini??Good secretary, or equally good sales rep. Weak point: the nerves, sometimes also the lungs.??House VII in Gemini??Marries quite young, and divorces later. A second marriage doubtless with less passion but a lot of friendship. Frightened of living alone in old age.??House VIII in Cancer??Small inheritances. ??House IX in Virgo??She is devoted to all causes that bring comfort or help to people in difficulty. ??House X in Libra??Contacts of all kinds will lead to social success, professional, through marriage etc... Likes society life, friendships that could help professionally. Sometimes jobs connected with justice, but always involved with important and influential people.??House XI in Scorpio??Adores to debate endlessly with friends who don't share her ideas. The discussion can lead to words, even a certain verbal violence.??House XII in Sagittarius??Problems abroad, or with foreigners, or flight abroad, exile.??Interplanetary aspects??The interplanetary aspects have a strong influence on the character and disposition of the individual and, consequently, on her destiny.??The conjunction aspect is variable and depends above all on the nature of the conjoint planets.??231 Sextile Venus - Mars??She is amorous, not a peaceful and calm lover but a passionate one with a strong temperament. She is demonstrative in love, and likes healthy pleasures. She enjoys life to the full.??122 Sextile Venus - Saturn??She has a good grasp of reality and of duty. She is thrifty, reserved and does not show off. She likes truth and justice. In love, her sentiments are sincere and deep, she never plays false. She is, of course, faithful in love and friendship. She can love a much older person and appreciates her intelligence and good sense.??119 Conjunction Mars - Saturn??She is energetic and determined. She has strength and resistance, ability and patience; she is tough, and sometimes insensitive, and puts all her energy and talents into overcoming all the obstacles to her success. She is obstinate, calculating, does not take on anything without having thought of all the possible consequences, she can take all the time in the world and never loses patience to achieve her objectives. She is not particularly popular in her circle, but is feared and respected.??-99 Opposition Moon - Midheaven??She has an irresolute nature, with sudden changes of humor. She is unstable and does not follow through on her own objectives. This instability shows itself not only in professional life but also in love life and friendships.??97 Conjunction Jupiter - Neptune??She is very generous and altruistic, helping people in difficulty or sick people. She knows how to listen or, at least, how to give that impression. She is a dreamer, with lots of imagination; she likes the Arts.??-86 Square Sun - Saturn??This implies slow intellectual development. . . . babbled Lin Friday, October 01, 2004 wow. I feel like such a terrible person.. to be so loved?.. and to not be able to reciprocate that right now. Is something wrong with me?.. that I could be so distant from this? sigh. All I know, is that I feel, and think... this is terrible.. terrible.. terrible.. "how do you tell the emotion of love? I don't think i've ever captured it before. Not in all my writing, never.... i've never felt like this before... is this a new emotion or is it just the same thing with a different appearence? i don't know anymore. I don't think i've ever been ready to accept someone so wholeheartedly in my life. so as the stars go down, as the night air falls just know that there could never be anything so wrong with you that I would turn away. I'm so sorry i'm such a pressure- I don't mean to be. it matters more that your comfortable with me than me ever being with you. I want to be where you crash at the end of these grueling weeks. I will be your weekend, No strings attached. and I swear, though I love you our friendship means more than words can say. I'm so sorry if i've ever been a hassle. I can only hope that you'll come to feel the same. But until then, now and forever more, I'll be your friend. Your friend till the end. I'm so sorry. All I want to do is be where you crash. Relax around me, I Swear. I'll massage your back, your neck. I won't ever push you for more. I swear I swear I swear.... I don't know what to say to you. But this is the most important thing in the world to me. I don't care for anything or anyone more. I don't know if i ever have before? don't ask. I don't want to beg, I won't beg. But just stay here with me tonight. Your simple presense is enough to satisfy. Your comittment would only be a feast... so just stay with me tonight under these stars. Because your being here is all that matters... I won't ever complain or grow tired, I Swear. Wrap my arms around you and fall asleep so weakly. I don't want anything more than this simple thing. So tonight, stay with me. That's all I ask..." Lin (9:44:11 PM): so sweeet *chuckles* ugh .. I don t* (9:44:16 PM): no-shh... Lin (9:44:24 PM): t deserve all that .. man.. t (9:44:50 PM): it doesn't matter what anyone deserves or not-it's honestly how I feel... t (9:45:07 PM): regardless. t (9:45:21 PM): some people get gifts bigger than they deserve all the time, why does it matter? t (9:45:44 PM): i don't really deserve you myself, yet i'm still here. Lin (9:45:49 PM): *shrugs* I just.. I don't know t (9:48:13 PM): I don't know how to reply to that. But I think you DO deserve it... t (9:49:02 PM): it's pure, it's uncomplicated, why ask to explain an emotion you feel? people say love is so complex, it's never been for me... you either do or you don't... t (9:49:50 PM): yet everytime i feel it i question if i ever have before... t (9:51:38 PM): I can tell you that things, people, everything, it's never as complex as people make it out to be... You, i would guess a lot of people are confused by you, but... I've always just known what to do and what not to... the world isn't so complicated-that's the beauty of it. People are entranced by something so simple... t(9:52:55 PM): people want to go and complicate everything, there's no reason to... the world isn't so complicated-that's the beauty of it. People are entranced by something so simple... t (9:52:55 PM): people want to go and complicate everything, there's no reason to... t (9:55:30 PM): it's true i would be flattered if you felt the same, i'm flattered that you even responded like you did... But forcing that on you is just gonna backlash on me. I'd rather you felt comfortable telling me everything... It's simple like this, if something more comes out of it, it does.... But until then i'd rather just be there for you to talk to, to confess everything to-there's no reason to expand on that before everyone involved is ready, and that includes YOU. t (9:57:14 PM): i don't want to be overbearing or overinvolved, you're only as fast as the slowest person in your party. . . . babbled Lin Monday, August 16, 2004 INTJ Personal Evaluation INTJ - The Free-Thinker Profile by Sandra Krebs Hirsch and Jean Kummerow INTJs are strong individualists who seek new angles or novel ways of looking at things. They enjoy coming to new understandings. They are insightful and mentally quick; however, this mental quickness may not always be outwardly apparent to others since they keep a great deal to themselves. They are very determined people who trust their vision of the possibilities, regardless of what others think. They may even be considered the most independent of all of the sixteen personality types. INTJs are at their best in quietly and firmly developing their ideas, theories, and principles.
Living The independent and individualistic INTJ manner appears early in life. As children, INTJs are often inwardly focused on their thoughts of the way the world is or ought to be; they enjoy day dreaming. They can be quite stubborn when information relayed to them by authorities, such as parents and teachers, contradicts what they believe. They are sure of their own belief system. INTJs are compelled to establish their own rules, boundaries, standards, and style. Often at an early age, INTJs make a commitment to furthering their education. The life of the mind is very important to them. Examples abound of INTJs from economically or intellectually impoverished circumstances setting goals for themselves to continue in education, often earning the highest degree possible. INTJ teenagers may be seen as serious and reserved young people who are labeled as bookworms by others. They set internal standards of achievement for themselves and often do well academically. Being sociable is a standard that they rarely think is worth their time and energy. As adults, INTJs are focused on attaining their inner goals and standards. They set a particular course based on their theory of what ought to be. They work extremely diligently to accomplish what they feel is important. They enjoy what they do and see it as a challenge. They are not easily dissuaded and may regard others' needs and wants as an impediment to attaining their objectives. Learning and Working INTJs learn best when they can design their won approach and when they are able to absorb themselves in an area that interests them. They tend to focus on systems, theories, and constructs relating to universal truths and principles. They prefer challenging teachers, ones who meet their standards. High grade-point averages and test scores tend to characterize INTJs, who like rigorous academic work. Learning needs to be a creative process. Rote memory can be dull and boring for the INTJ.
INTJs are diligent in pursuing new ideas and thoughts, and they exert effort to master a given subject. This makes INTJs particularly adept in most school situations. Because of their resourcefulness, thirst for knowledge, and inner needs, INTJs tend to find ways of acquiring knowledge. They gravitate toward libraries, public lectures, courses, and other learners and teachers - sources that offer them information and direction. At work, INTJs use their conceptual strengths to analyze situations and then develop models to understand and anticipate through relentlessly to reach their goals. They will continue on with their plans, even in the face of adversity and data that might suggest to other more practical types that their goals are no longer feasible. By nature, INTJs are independent individualists. They see their visions so clearly that they are often surprised when others do not see things the same way. INTJs are strong at critiquing and as a result tend to notice the negatives. To them, a job well done should be reward enough in itself. They may neglect to comment favorably on others' contributions.
INTJs tend to seek occupations that allow them to change the status quo and to design models to express their vision creatively. They desire autonomy and room for growth. They prefer to work in a place in which the future can be planned and where they can work for change in an organized manner. Some occupations seem to be especially attractive to INTJs: computer systems analyst, electrical engineer, judge, lawyer, photographer, psychologist, research department manager, researcher, scientist, university instructor, and other occupations in which long-range vision is essential. Loving For INTJs, love means including someone in their vision of the world. INTJ men tend to be attracted to partners who enjoy living their lives with and outward vitality and zest. Perhaps it is to compensate for their internal, visionary focus that they often find partners who are more outgoing and may even run interference to help the INTJ deal with the day-to-day world. INTJ women, however, may seek someone more like themselves. INTJs tend to have a model in mind of how their relationship ought to be. This is less a romantic vision than it is and idea that relates to how the relationship functions in a unique or special way. They tend to withhold their deep feelings and affections from the public and sometimes even from the object of their affections. They can be intensely loyal and caring, even though this is not always expressed in words. INTJs can be generous with their gifts if the gift fits their vision of what ought to be appreciated by their partner. When scorned, INTJs retreat to their own world and may share none of their feelings with others. They may assume that there is a right way for a relationship to end and look for that. They act on the outside as if nothing has happened to them when indeed much has. They may lash out with criticisms of their former loved ones. It may take them a while to recover. Profile by David Keirsey INTJs are the most self-confident of all types, having "self-power" awareness. Found in about 1 percent of the general population, the INTJs live in an introspective reality, focusing on possibilities, using thinking in the form of empirical logic, and preferring that events and people serve some positive use. Decisions come naturally to INTJs' once a decision is made, INTJs are at rest. INTJs look to the future rather than the past, and a word which captures the essence of INTJs is builder-a builder of systems and the applier of theoretical models. To INTJs authority based on position, rank, title, or publication has absolutely no force. This type is not likely to succumb to the magic of slogans, watchwords, or shibboleths. If an idea or position makes sense to an INTJ, it will be adopted, if it doesn't, it won't, regardless of who took the position or generated the idea. As with the INTP, authority per se does not impress the INTJ. INTJs do, however, tend to conform to rules if they are useful, not because they believe in them, or because they make sense, but because of their unique view of reality. They are the supreme pragmatists, who see reality as something which is quite arbitrary and made up. Thus it can be used as a tool-or ignored. Reality is quite malleable and can be changed, conquered, or brought to heel. Reality is a crucible for the refining of ideas, and in this sense, INTJs are the most theoretical of all the types. Where an ESTP sees ideas as the pawn of reality, an INTJ sees reality as the pawn of ideas: No idea is too far-fetched to be entertained. INTJs are natural brainstormers, always open to new concepts and, in fact, aggressively seeking them. INTJs manipulate the world of theory as if on a gigantic chess board, always seeking strategies and tactics that have high payoff. In their penchant for logic, the INTJs resemble the INTPs. The logic of an INTJ, however, is not confined to the expressible logical. Unlike INTPs, INTJs need only to have a vague, intuitive impression of the unexpressed logic of a system to continue surely on their way. Things need only seem logical; this is entirely sufficient. Moreover, they always have a keen eye for the consequence of the application of new ideas or positions. They can be quite ruthless in the implementation of systems, seldom counting personal cost in terms of time and energy. Theories which cannot be made to work are quickly discarded by the INTJs. To understand INTJs, their way of dealing with ideas should be observed closely. Their conscious thought is extraverted and empirical. Hence, they are better at generalizing, classifying, summarizing, adducing evidence, proving, and demonstrating than are the INTPs. The INTJs are somewhat less at home with pure reason, that is, systemic logic, where principles are explicit. In this respect they resemble the ENTJs. The INTJs, rather than using deductive logic, use their intuition to grasp coherence. Career INTJs can be very single-minded at times; this can be either a weakness or a strength in their careers, for they can ignore the points of view and wishes of others. INTJs usually rise to positions of responsibility, for they work long and hard and are steady in their pursuit of goals, sparing neither time nor effort on their part or that of their colleagues and employees. INTJs live to see systems translated into substance; an INTP, by way of contrast, is content to design the system. In both these types, however, coherence is the master. Both internal and external consistency are important, and if an INTJ finds that he or she is in a working situation where overlapping functions, duplication of effort, inefficient paper flow, and waste of human and material resources abound, the INTJ cannot rest until an effort is made to correct the situation. Cost-effectiveness is a concept which has a strong imperative for INTJs, who frequently select occupations in engineering, particularly human engineering. They also can be found in the physical sciences, in roles which require development, such as curriculum building, and, in general, any job which requires the creation and application of technology to complex areas. Fellow workers of INTJs often feel as if the INTJ can see right through them, and often believe that the INTJ finds them wanting. This tendency of people to feel transparent in the presence of the INTJ often result in relationships which have psychological distance. Thus colleagues find the INTJ apparently unemotional and, at times, cold and dispassionate. Because of their tendency to drive others as hard as they do themselves, INTJs often seem demanding and difficult to satisfy. INTJs are high achievers in school and on the job. On the job, they take the goals of an institution seriously and continually strive to respond to these goals. They make dedicated, loyal employees whose loyalties are directed toward the system, rather than toward individuals within the system. So as the people of an institution come and go, the INTJs have little difficulty-unlike the NFs, who have their loyalties involved more with persons than offices. INTJs tend, ordinarily, to verbalize the positive and eschew comments of a negative nature; they are more interested in moving an institution forward than commiserating about mistakes of the past. Home As mates, INTJs want harmony and order in the home and in relationships. They are the most independent of all types. They will trust their intuitions about others when making choices of friends and mates, even in the face of contradictory evidence and pressures applied by others. The emotions of an INTJ are hard to read, and neither male nor female INTJ is apt to express emotional reactions. At times, both will seem cold, reserved, and unresponsive, while in fact INTJs are almost hypersensitive to signals of rejection from those for whom they care. In social situations, INTJs may also be unresponsive and may neglect to observe small rituals designed to put others at their ease. For example, INTJs may communicate that time is wasted if used for idle dialogue, and thus people receive a sense of hurry from an INTJ which is not always intended. In their interpersonal relationships, INTJs are usually better in a working situation than in recreational situations. They do not enjoy physical contact except with a chosen few. As parents, INTJs are dedicated and single minded in their devotion: Their children are a major focus in life. They are supportive of their children and tend to allow them to develop in directions of their own choosing. INTJs usually are firm and consistent in their discipline and rarely care to repeat directions given to children...or others. Being the most independent of all the types, they have a strong need for autonomy; indifference or criticism from people in general does not particularly bother INTJs, if they believe that they are right. They also have a strong need for privacy. The most important preference of an INTJ is intuition, but this is seldom seen. Rather, the function of thinking is used to deal with the world and with people. INTJs are vulnerable in the emotional area and may make serious mistakes here. Midlife At midlife the feeling side of personality should be given much attention by the INTJ, who can work at expanding his or her abilities to respond to wishes and feelings of others. They may also do well to turn more attention to the sensory side of their natures, attempting to get in touch with the joys of good food, good beverages, social rituals, kinesthetic experiences...and play. The "wasting" of time in play is an appropriate target as a midlife task for INTJs who can take lessons from an SP, especially an ESP, in the art of enjoying the pleasures of life. Mates Wishing to control nature, the INTJ "scientist" probably has more difficulty than all other types in making up his or her mind in mate selection. Even mate selection must be done in a scientific way. It may well be that the narratives, plays, and films impugning the "rational and objective" approach to mating have as their target our thorough-going scientist INTJ. Nevertheless, when young, the INTJ is attracted to the free-wheeling, spontaneous, fun-loving "entertainer" ESFP. But the INTJ requires that mating meet certain criteria, else it is not undertaken. So the INTJ doesn't often go through with what is begun by natural attraction. Since he or she proceeds in a rational and methodical way, the selection of a similar temperament is more likely than selection of opposite, following the assumption that those who are similar ought to do well together. The INTJ "scientist" is also attracted to the ENFP "journalist," probably because of the enthusiastic, effervescent, and apparently spontaneous enjoyment and wonderment this type exudes-the very antitheses of the careful, thoughtful exactitude of the INTJ. . . . babbled Lin INTP Personal Evaluation INTP - The Wizard -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Profile by Sandra Krebs Hirsch and Jean Kummerow INTPs are known for their quest for logical purity, which motivates them to examine universal truths and principles. They are constantly asking themselves and others the questions 'Why?' and 'Why not?' Clear and quick thinkers, they are able to focus with great intensity on their interests. They appreciate elegance and efficiency in thought processes and require them, even more so, in their own communications. They may be seen as unwilling to accept what everyone else regards as truth. While often low key in outward appearance and approach, the INTP is 'hard as nails' when challenging a truth. INTPs do not like to deal with the obvious. They are at their best in building conceptual models and developing unusual and complex ideas. Living As children, INTPs are inwardly focused, often enjoying their won thoughts more than the company of others. They are full of questions, sometimes voiced, most often not. INTP children often challenge and even stump their elders. They enjoy fantasy, mysteries, inventing, thinking and doing things that may be somewhat atypical for other children of their age, and they sense their uniqueness early on. If INTPs are fond of books or games, it is likely that their choices will be the current rage. If and INTP is fond of music, it is likely to be of and unusual sort. INTPs tend to either respect and go along with society's rules, or to question and rebel against them. Their response to these rules depends on how the rules might affect them. When INTPs do not like the rules, they are quick to find the flaws in the rule makers' thinking, regardless of their status, position in the hierarchy, or renown. As young adults choosing careers, INTPs either set a course and work toward it quietly yet forcefully or continue to resist and rebel against society's expectations and irrational rules. They may either focus in depth on a major interest or move from one interest to another without showing others - friends, colleagues, and bosses - their reasons why. It is the process, the quest, that has been most interesting to them. Once they have found the answer, they do not often share it because the answer is obvious, and documenting the obvious is redundant. This attitude includes a tendency not to response or speak up in groups, because the INTP feels that what he or she was going to say seems so obvious that no one would want to hear it. As INTPs mature, they continue their quest for logical purity, but now it includes more balance in their activities. Learning and Working The INTP is a relentless learner in areas that hold his or her interest. They often seem 'lost in thought,' and this characteristic appears very early. INTPs enjoy the life of the mind and the learning process, regardless of whether that process takes place in a formal sense. They are often characterized as life-long learners. In school, well-rounded INTPs work on their assignments with a great deal of inward energy and interest that is usually not apparent to others. They tend to connect unrelated thoughts. As learners, they are able to find logical flaws in the thinking of others. They analyze these flaws and find ideas for further study. They go to great depths in their analysis. In taking exams, they prefer theorectical questions. When INTPs view a test, teachers, or subjects as irrelevant, they may respond as follows: 'I know what I need to know about this topic; I may even know more than my teacher. The teacher made this test, and this test is dumb. Therefore, my teacher is dumb, and I will not do the test.' Because of such reactions, the INTP's academic record may include successes or may be filled with failures. INTPs contribute a logical, system-building approach to their work. They like being the architect of a plan, because of the scheming and thinking involved, far more than being the implementer of that plan. Implementation tends to be drudgery. They are content to sit back and think about what might work, given their view of the situation. INTPs may ignore standard operating procedures. The hours that they spend are not what is important to them, but rather the completion of their thought process. When their projects are of interest to them, they can become mesmerized and may even work through the night. when their projects are not intriguing, their work is considered drudgrery, and the INTP finds it difficult to stay motivated. INTPs usually find a place in their work for using their logical and structured thinking. They enjoy work that allows them to abstract, to generalize beyond the data, and to build models. Flexibility is desired because INTPs like to 'do the job when they want to do it and as they want to do it.' They also prefer occupations in which the hierarchy is minimal and not important. This attitude seems from their firm belief that, to be legitimate, a hierarchy should be built on the competency of individuals who are logically placed according to their talents. Some occupations seem to be more attractive to INTPs: biologist, chemist, computer programmer, computer system analyst, lawyer, photographer, psychologist, researcher, surveyor, writer and other occupations that allow them to use their logical thinking in appropriate ways. Loving For the INTP, love has three distinct phases: falling in, staying in, and getting out. These phases relate to their thinking preference and its need for order and sequence. An INTP characterized falling in love as a stage of complete loss of rationality that may last a year or less. When an INTP falls in love, he or she falls hard - an all or nothing phenomenon. At this stage, INTPs are likely to be very lively, almost giddy, in their new love. The experience rushes over them and carries them along. They do not structure or control it but simply enjoy and experience it. They do many loving things and they are curious about their loved one and are able to overlook his or her flaws. They may bravely ignore the realities of distance, weather, and time to be with the loved one. As relationships progress to the staying-in-love phase, INTPs begin to evaluate their structure and form. They may withdraw at this point because they are moving toward their more customary inward style. Outward demonstrations of affection lessen, and the giddy state changes. Interactions are more matter of fact, perhaps even impersonal. INTPs take their commitments to their partner seriously; however, they may not discuss these commitments at any length with their partner or with other people, because their commitments seem so obvious to them. Falling out of love, which may not always occur, results from an analysis of the real expectations and needs of the relationship. Often an undefined line is crossed that neither partner knows about ahead of time. However, the INTP knows after the line has been crossed, and then the relationship deteriorates or ends. If INTPs recognize their emotions and needs as valid, they are able to sever relationship ties fairly cleanly. However, if they misjudge their own needs and those of their partner, the breakup can be messy, perhaps affecting other aspects of their lives for a long time. If the INTP shares some common interests with the former loved one, the relationship continues but on a different level. When INTPs have a reason to continue relationships, they do. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Profile by David Keirsey INTPs exhibit the greatest precision in thought and language of all the types; they tend to see distinctions and inconsistencies in thought and language instantaneously. The one word which captures the unique style of INTPs is architect-the architect of ideas and systems as well as the architect of edifices. This type is found in only 1 percent of the population and therefore is not encountered as frequently as some of the other types. INTPs detect contradictions in statements no matter how distant in space or time the contradictory statements were produced. The intellectual scanning of INTPs has a principled quality; that is, INTPs search for whatever is relevant and pertinent to the issue at hand. Consequently, INTPs can concentrate better than any other type. Authority derived from office, position, or wide acceptance does not impress INTPs. Only statements that are logical and coherent carry weight. External authority per se is irrelevant. INTPs abhor redundancy and incoherence. Possessing a desire to understand the universe, an INTP is constantly looking for natural law. Curiosity concerning these keys to the universe is a driving force in this type. INTPs prize intelligence in themselves and in others, but can become intellectual dilettantes as a result of their need to amass ideas, principles, or understanding of behavior. And once they know something, it is remembered. INTPs can become obsessed with analysis. Once caught up in a thought process, that thought process seems to have a will of its own for INTPs, and they persevere until the issue is comprehended in all its complexity. They can be intellectual snobs and may show impatience at times with others less endowed intellectually. This quality, INTPs find, generates hostility and defensive behavior on the part of others, who may describe an INTP as arrogant. For INTPs, the world exists primarily to be understood. Reality is trivial, a mere arena for proving ideas. It is essential that the universe is understood and that whatever is stated about the universe is stated correctly, with coherence and without redundancy. This is the INTPs final purpose. It matters not whether others understand or accept his or her truths. Career The INTP is the logician, the mathematician, the philosopher, the scientist; any pursuit requiring architecture of ideas intrigues this type. INTP's should not, however, be asked to work out the implementation or application of their models to the real world. The INTP is the architect of a system and leaves it to others to be the builder and the applicator. Very often therefore, the INTP's work is not credited to him or her. The builder and the applier gains fame and fortune, while the INTP's name remains obscure. Appreciation of an INTP's theoretical work frequently comes posthumously-or the work may never be removed from library shelves at all and thus lost. INTP's tend not to be writers or to go into sales work. They are, however, often excellent teachers, particularly for advanced students, although INTP's do not always enjoy much popularity, for they can be hard taskmasters. They are not good at clerical tasks and are impatient with routine details. They prefer to work quietly, without interruption, and often alone. If an organization is to use the talents of an INTP appropriately, the INTP must be given an efficient support staff who can capture ideas as they emerge and before the INTP loses interest and turns to another idea. Our "architect" is not merely a designer of buildings. There is the architect of ideas (the philosopher), the architect of number systems (the mathematician), the architect of computer languages (the programmer), and on and on. In short, abstract design is the forte of the architect and coherence is the primary issue. Home INTP's take their mating relationship seriously and usually are faithful and devoted-albeit preoccupied at times. They are not likely to welcome constant social activity or disorganization in the home. In all probability, the mate of an INTP will initiate and manage the social life. If left to his or her own devices the INTP mate will retreat into the world of books and emerge only when physical needs become imperative. INTP's are, however, willing, compliant, and easy to live with, although somewhat forgetful of appointments, anniversaries, and rituals of daily living unless reminded. They may have difficulty expressing their emotions verbally, and the mate of an INTP may believe that he/she is somewhat taken for granted. As a parent, the INTP is devoted; they enjoy children, and are serious about their upbringing. The home of an INTP parent is usually calm, low-key in discipline, but well run and ordered. INTP's deal with the environment primarily through intuition, and their strongest quality, the thinking function, remains relatively hidden except in close associations. Therefore, INTP's are often misunderstood, seen as difficult to know, and seldom perceived at their true level of competency. They are inclined to be shy except when with close friends, and their reserve is difficult to penetrate. They are very adaptable until one of their principles is violated. Then INTP's are not adaptable at all! They may have difficulty in being understood by others because they tend to think in a complicated fashion and want to be precise, never redundant in their communications. Because their feeling qualities may be underdeveloped, they may be insensitive to the wants and wishes of others, often unaware of the existence of these wants and wishes. Midlife At midlife the INTP might do well to work on increasing awareness of emotional responses, responding to the value preferences of others, and verbalizing to others the INTP's awareness of these values. At midlife one of the tasks of the INTP is to develop an ability to play for play's sake; not to learn something or to somehow improve a skill. Working on the sensual side of his or her nature may provide a source of new pleasure and excitement. Mates Why would this abstractionist find the ESFJ "seller" attractive? Think broadly of selling. This amounts to persuading another to receive something of value to the receiver. The seller is essentially caring for the receiver (quite apart from the fact that the receiver pays). This is the essential attitude of the ESFJ seller, and this attitude is perceptible to the receiver (buyer); he feels this nourishing approach. That is what is attractive to the INTP architect-philosopher-the nourishment which anchors him to the real world. What attracts the ESFJ "seller"? Here is a person who, like a balloon filled with hydrogen, is likely to escape the earth (in his abstract attitude). He needs to have a string attached so that he can be hauled down to earth now and then. In a sense, he needs to be "sold on reality," so indifferent is he to it. The INTP also has a second likely target to attract him: the ENFJ "pedagogue." What is a pedagogue? A catalyst of the growth process, someone who has that uncanny ability to "bring out" the other, to activate the differentiation or "unfolding" process in the learner. All NFs seem to have this capability in some degree and the accompanying desire to exercise it, but the ENFJ seems to have it in abundance. This relationship-the ENFJ-INTP-can be "deep and meaningful" for the former and anchoring in a charismatic way for the latter. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- . . . babbled Lin Wednesday, August 04, 2004 Reference CD/Songs Unfortunately I’ve discovered some CDs that have been given to me have become very scratched and thus many songs have become almost eliminated due to skips. Songs I enjoy and don’t particularly wish to forget... so listing them in random (as I hear them), because that’s how I want it. If I ever really want to truly reference it some day, the numbers are at least there. Not sure who all of the particular artists are, instead of looking up everyone on the internet while listening.. I'm just jotting down some favorite lines that I would likely find sometime if I searched for it. 8. Take all this infatuation.. I never thought I'd be this way with you make your wish blow out the candles and I'll hope that everyone of them comes true chorus: she says - don't live with, frustration, I've learned from ?? your day will come don't praise me because I made it through without any help from you, without any help at all, don't hate me because I didn't make the call, and I'll never take the fall [chorus] 6. The nightmares the bad dreams have become reality, at least in side my mind.. yeah no words that you say could ever make me want to change forgive me, not when it comes to this crime 13. I know the next time that you make a wish upon a star, I'll be wishing on the same one that you do and every night I'm all alone in some burnt out highway town, I'll be thinking of the day when I met you Hello again, it's been too long, what's happened to our love, since the last time I was gone? ... Our conversation can't consist of hello and goodbye, and the silence between saying 'I love you'.. and sometimes, I wonder bout that too. 15. this night was too good to be true today – I woke up alone – wishing you were here with me – I want us to be something that we’ll probably never be . . .I swear I’ll treat you like a queen 14. another lonely seaside where the seasons closing down but if you close your eyes you can almost hear the crowds go by . . chasing the sun isn’t my kind of fun I’d rather catch snowflakes on my tongue. . don’t ever tell, anyone anything.. else you’ll wind up missing everybody 10. (great great awesome song – John Mayer of course) back to you, it always comes around, back to you I try to forget you, try to stay away, but it’s too late Over you – I’m never really over you – something about you, it’s just the way you move.. the way you move me. 7. and 4. If I’m wrong, let me know, do you think, I should go? But before you give an answer, think of someone you’d rather be. . . all that I want.. all that I need.. all I want to know is do you want to come with me Southern wind, desert stars, all of this could be yours – you know it only takes two words and we’ll both be on our way. 19. (beautiful beginning to this song.. man and I just love this song) And I will walk with you Using the stars as guides On a homeward path we go Knowing our time is ..? .. Chorus: and I will walk, to be with you All I’ve done, just to be with you So put your hand in mine, and lay your head to rest We’ll light the candles now They won’t be lit for long We’ll know our day was blessed [chorus] 18. He awoke from the night to tell what he’d seen, and walked slowly out of his tent … he said: I have seen the others, and I have discovered.. this fight is not worth fighting.. and I’ve seen their mothers, and I will no other to follow where I’m going - you are young now you must be living, go now you are forgiven. 16. lots of feelings I can’t explain - I will spend another night alone – Of every girl I meet, no other can compete, I’d ditch them all to be with you I know you don’t believe you mean this much to me, but I promise you that you do.. If I had one wish this is what it would be: to spend all your time with me, and we’d be together forever 12. stars are out tonight and you’re the brightest one shining in my sky it’s like every wish came true, when I met you will you be my best friend.. if I offer you my heart.. ‘cause it’s already yours 20. did you like, the flowers I sent could have called to thank me.. and I tried to kiss you, on broken avenue but you got in your car, before I could move I’ve been.. falling like the rain .. You’ve got your umbrella in my way we’ll never see the end, until it’s right there upon us If you want, I can go away, but like the rain, I’ll come again someday 3. You’re more than tongue-tied this time I could feel it in your lips Nobody told me you were a sucker for a kiss Being wrong, never felt so right Tell me about your first kiss, Tell me have you already forgotten it, What do I have to do to get through all of this. 11. (awesome song) Would you believe me if I said I’m tired of this? Well here we go, one more time: Chorus: I tried to climb your steps I tried to chase you down I tried to see how low I could get down to the ground I tried to earn my way I tried to tame this mind You better believe that I have tried to be there So where will this end, it goes on and on, over and over and over again Keep spinning around, I know it won’t stop, till I step down from this (?).. Well I never thought I’d end up here Never thought I’d be standing where I am Guess I thought it would be easier than this, guess I was wrong 2. I know it’s hard for you To understand what I’m going through But now I sit here to remind myself You’re always dressed to kill And you feel like you owe it to the world, but you owe it to yourself And you’re, you’re not here.. but I can’t stop pretending that you’re forever mine 5. (love how this song begins) pictures on the wall just waiting there to fall . . that painful holiday, can almost hear you say, ‘please don’t miss me, tonight’ what did I do wrong? Could have sung a different song.. you were my tune make my heart believe, a want is not need.. (?) the days go by.. the nights don’t change.. the stars still spell out your name.. I will wait for you. 1. It’s time you opened your eyes And wake up to the morning Today calls out your name It’s like you’ll never be the same, without you, ruining my life?, because it just seems like the best that you can be? Well I can’t sleep.. cause it’s only 4 in the morning.. I think I ran out of dreams How can you say that you love me, when the world around you is changing, how can you say that you love me, when it’s only your ?, ruining my life, that’s what you seem to be the best at 21. (cooool song!) You could be the devil in my bed You could be the angel in my head You could be the voices that I hear I’m singing alone cause it sounds just like you’re near Chorus: cause you’re so beautiful so beautiful today.. so beautiful in every little way .. I could be the drug you can’t resist I could be the answer don’t ? you missed I could be the love you hate to fear Feeling the hole inside your hear with feeling into me [chorus] can we make it through? Together we’ve got to fly Don’t you know – I’ve got to fly.. Cause when you’re coming around, I have to fly high Don’t you know – I want to fly Cause I know.. I feel.. that I could.. learn to hate just like you.. and I know that I feel that you can learn to love just like me.. (repeat) together we’ve got to fly . . . babbled Lin Monday, June 07, 2004 Haha.. I found this horoscope from a site that I consider much more legit in describing potential relationships (concise and less room for'open-interpretation') Aquarius (January 21-February 18): You may find a sudden increase in your cash flow, which is always music to your ears. This could be in the form of a new job offer or sudden moneymaking opportunity. But that’s not all, you may also find sudden romance with a coworker or while working out, so be sure you look cute! - - - Which is a little weird because 1) I do start a new job this tuesday and sale opportunities are opening up again around this time.. and I am looking forward in the 'increase in cashflow'. 2) I recently met a coworker who I've been hanging out with, aside from strictly business matters, and we plan to hang out more . . . but 'romance'? heh. . . . babbled Lin |